August 2026 - what happens when people happen?
This month's newsletter is dedicated in loving memory of Annette, beloved Do For One Partner to Makenna, Megan, and Mimi, and an inspiration to all of us to love more fiercely, to laugh more uncontrollably, to go after life by taking big risks, and so much more.
Known for her quick wit, sharp sense of humor, sophistication, charm, and wisdom, Annette had an extraordinary ability to make people feel welcome, understood, and valued.
Read below for a recap of what was shared at her memorial service.
Annette Kaye
August 7th, 1945 - July 30th, 2026
The Service
The service was hosted last weekend, August 7th, which also happens to be Annette's birthday, by two of her dearest friends, Makenna and Megan. They gathered in a cozy basement living room filled with the most wonderfully eclectic group of New Yorkers who braved thunder and rain to celebrate Annette's life and remember the gift of her friendship.
Annette’s memorial service on August 7th, 2026.
Megan
“I kind of view our friendship through birthdays,” Megan shared that evening. “We both met her right before her birthday in 2023.”
The first time we met her, she was at the nursing home on the Upper East Side and just dreamt of moving home - like basically her birthday wish. She told me, “I just want to try.” I was really nervous about it. I didn’t think she would be safe at home.
Around that time, Andrew said something about how in life, you deserve to be able to dream. That’s part of a life with dignity. And that idea really stuck with me through that whole process.
It was finally April 2024 I think, and she was home.
Annette back home playing games with friends.
Megan continues, "So that following birthday in 2024, that was this picture of all 4 of us: Me, Christina, Makenna, and Annette, and we had Greek food outside and it was beautiful, and everyone was just having the time of their life.
And it was just something that I think I will remember forever. Cause it was to me, a testament of what happens when people happen.”
Annette, Christina, Makenna, and Megan getting Greek food for Annette’s birthday.
Makenna
In her eulogy for Annette, Makenna said,
“Annette taught me how to take risks and pursue freedom. As many of you know, seeing Annette move back to her home on the UES after being in the nursing home encouraged me to quit my policy job and take on more relational work, including working for Do For One!
Annette taught me how to be honest. She didn’t shy away from crying out to me about her fears and dreams and in the process, I realized that many of my own fears and dreams were the same as hers…Sometimes the very best thing we could offer each other was presence and connection rather than trying to fix the situation.”
Mimi
Mimi, who allowed Do For One to cross paths with Annette in the first place through her role as a long-time Protestant worship service leader at the nursing home, also witnessed Annette’s life completely transform in the span of 4 birthdays.
“Annette’s story reminds me that lives are changed not only by medicine or programs but really through faithful friendship…Through friendship you gave her dignity, you gave her companionship, and you gave her home. And you gave the joy of seeing her flourish again and that’s what it was about. And I also want to thank you Annette for letting us be part of your journey as well.”
Mimi, Annette, Makenna, and Jane at Jane’s baby shower Annette hosted.
